Gentle Reminders
Embarrassed
I’m feeling embarrassed
And now I’ve lost face
I had an explosive outburst
And wasn’t thoughtful in what I said
I was having a reaction
And wasn't ready to think
I was feeling my feelings out loud
And didn’t take space before I speak
I may have hurt some feelings
In the people who were near
And now I feel ashamed
And paralyzed by fear
That they will still be angry
And attack me for what I did wrong
But if they do, I can accept
That I did things that hurt
I can make some space for it
And make sure they are heard
And then I can work to understand
What triggered my reaction
So I spend less time reactive
And have much more satisfaction
I know that I’m not perfect
And this is part of growing
The best path to set for this
Starts in acceptance and knowing
Fear Of Missing Out FOMO
Sometimes the Fear Of Missing Out
Gets inside my head
And instead of being present
I’m everywhere else instead
I think about my friends
And the things they get to do
And I wish they had invited me
To be there with them too
I want to go
I want to see
I want to do
Not just dream
But nobody can do everything
And every experience isn’t for me
And when I focus on what could have been
I miss what IS in front of me
Not every fun
Is for everyone
Not everything
Is meant for me
It’s mine to live
The moment I’m in
Whether or not
It’s shared with friends
Frustration
When someone causes frustration
It's easy to jump to conclusions
About how they broke my concentration
With their perceived intrusion
I remind myself that they can’t see
Inside my reality
And I try to leave them be
Sometimes it helps if I remember
People aren’t always at their best or most clever
They are probably distracted from the demands of their life
And it’s probably NOT their intention to cause me strife
Maybe they lack skills, or weren’t taught when they were young
What makes sense, or how things are done.
Maybe their way works for them
But not for everyone
Maybe they’re just not aware
That anyone else is affected
Maybe they just need to be let in
So they can be more effective
So I’ll calm myself down, so I can think
And look for ways to bring relief
Forgive, let go, and plan for something better
Nobody’s perfect we’re in this together
Overwhelmed
I’m feeling overwhelmed
Everything feels too big
It feels like the world’s against me
And I don’t know where to begin
The first thing I need to do
Is not make it worse
Even if my anxiety looks for more
Reasons to fret, like a curse
Then I’ll make a list
Of the things weighing on me
And identify things I can change or fix
And the things beyond my reach
For things I can have an impact on,
I’ll make a plan of action
I’ll use the tools I have on hand
(I know that these take practice)
For things beyond what I control
I’ll set them to the side
I’ll visit with them later
But it probably won’t be tonight
I’ll do all I can do
And the rest is up to fate
But at least I’ll have my back
Even if things don’t go my way.
In Control
I am in control of me.
I am in charge of the things I do,
And how I act, react, and think.
When I have big feelings,
I name how I feel.
Whether overwhelmed, frustrated, or angry,
My feelings are valid and real.
Then I decide how I respond,
Based on what I need,
And my values that are strong.
I look for solutions
And steer away from blame
And I invite others to do the same.
Yet
Sometimes things may seem hard
Because they're unfamiliar and new
Which means I haven't done them before
So I'm uncertain what to do
Sometimes it seems scary
When I don't know the drill
When I don't know what's expected
Or I might not have the skills
But there was once a time
Before I knew how to talk
Before I Knew how to smile or laugh
Before I Knew how to walk
Before I Knew my Alphabet
Or how to kick a ball
Or how to follow rules
Like not to run in the halls
When I stop to think of it
There are so many things I CAN do
And every one of those things
Began as something new
I can do hard things
It's safe to place your bet
It's NOT that I can't do this
I just haven't done it yet.
Friend
I'm your friend.
I'm on your side.
I know that life gets big
Sometimes.
It's OK,
To feel how you feel,
Even if others act,
Like it isn't real.
You're not out of line,
For seeing the things you do.
Your point of view is valid,
And it matters how things effect you.
I know you get big feelings,
That make it hard to choose,
The answers you have to perform,
To manage others' relationships with you.
Take a moment to remember,
It doesn't mean you're wrong,
When others do things differently,
And it feels you don't belong.
Also know I love you,
And I'm here by your side,
I get you, and I love you,
And I want you in my life.
Worry
Sometimes I get invasive thoughts
And my head starts spinning
I think about everything going wrong
And can’t imagine winning
I think of all the things that I’ve messed up
And feel very deeply that I’m not enough
But I don’t have to be perfect to be worthy
And I deserve peace in the space I’m hurting
So I give myself a hug and hold myself tight
I breathe deeply and remind myself that I am alright
There’s no crisis. Nothing’s on fire.
My anxiety is just loud, and it’s a known liar.
I’m worthy, I’m loved, and I get to make mistakes
My imperfection won’t make the Earth quake
Today will end, and tomorrow too
I’m doing my best, and that’ll have to do.
- The First Month
- Week Zero
- Week One
- Week Two
- Week Three
- Week Four
- Month Two
- Week Five
- Week Six
- Week Seven
- Week Eight
- Month Three
- Week Nine
- Week Ten
- Week Eleven
- Week Twelve
Operation **Reclaim** Loveland 
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