Private Reactions
These ideas are so much better Shared!!
Giving Space to Process
Oftentimes people respond better when they have a chance to process something on their own. Whether it’s resolving a conflict, or addressing a behavior, private space is necessary for each of us to truly be able to work through the moment.
When we disengage socially, we get to have a different space in our own brain, our private brain, which enables honesty and removes the need to save face.
Think about the conflicts you witness or experience in your life. How often is the need to save face a catalyst for conflict?
By working things out on our own before coming back to discuss them with another party, we have a chance to experience and address things like defensiveness.
Alone time allows us to use our analyzing/understanding brain, rather than our reacting brain.
I encourage letter writing, especially if something is difficult to say, especially if you’re afraid of approaching the other party, especially if the emotion of the moment will prevent you from listening to what the other party is saying, especially if you’re worried about not being heard in the moment.
Storm privately. Engage cooperatively.
Operation **Reclaim** Loveland 
What do you think?